Chen - Assignment 4

One long held belief that I had since I was little is that you don't need anyone else in your life, you just focus on you, help yourself, help no one else. My parents were brought up on this belief from within Communist China. They taught me since I was little that it is childish, irrational, and unreliable to rely on the help of anyone else. You should be able to do everything by yourself, things like help are a fantasy that never happens in the real world. They taught me that all other people aren't trust worthy and the whole world was working against you. They also said that asking for help was a sign of weakness and never show weakness. For all of elementary school I just did all my work by myself and didn't really ask questions, in school settings I would try to learn it all by myself and never ask anyone including the teachers questions. But as I grew older that same approach wasn't exactly working, sometimes I would get lost and would have to ask a teacher. Every time in middle school I had to talk to a teacher after class I called it in my head the "walk of shame" but I soon realized that it's okay to ask for help. Sometimes people are there just to help.